First let me just say that I have nothing but respect for people who stay at home with their kids all day. In fact I'm immensley jealous of those people....
I'm a little frustrated this morning, there was a news article online that incensed me a little bit... Basically it talked about all the things a stay at home mom deals with... as if those of us who
have to work don't deal with all the same things on a daily basis. So I just want to clear a few things up.
-Yes I work a full time job, not by choice, if I could stay home with my children all day and be able to afford it I would do it in a heartbeat... not because it's easier than working, but so that I could be with my kids as much as possible.
-Even though I do work a full time job, I still deal with all the every day aspects of motherhood.When I come home from work it's not all sunshine and roses. I still deal with poopy diapers, runny noses, temper tantrums, not being able to go pee by myself anymore, as well as all the wonderful smiles and kisses and hugs.
-I'm not saying that stay at home moms don't work hard. But do not tell me that I don't work just as hard as you. When I go to work (at 5 am.) I deal not just with whiney toddlers, I deal with whiney adults.Whiney toddlers can't help it. Whiney adults can, they just choose not to, and toddlers can't be assholes.
-When I get home from work, I go into full Mommy mode, which means playing peek a boo and patty cake, and chasing around my 1 year old.
-I do not have a maid, not only do I work a full-time job, but then I come home, play with my baby and hopefully have time to clean my house a little bit too.
-Unfortunately since I do work, that means I have to try and be everything to everyone. I have mom responsibilities, spouse responsibilities and work responsibilities, coming to work doesn't mean I get to have a fun day of chitchatting with adults and that it gives me a break from my child. That is completely oposite of the real situation.
-Every day that I come to work, I have to deal with the guilt of leaving my child with someone else. Now don't get me wrong, I am one of the immensly lucky working Mom's in that I at least have family who love him staying with him throughout the day. But it doesn't change the fact that my heart breaks a little every time I have to leave him and he's crying and reaching for me.
-Yes, I do enjoy a little adult time and intellectual stimulation, but coming to work isn't what gives me that. Talking to my spouse, my family and my friends is what gives me that. (Also playing words with friends, lol.)
So in conclusion, I just want all the stay at home mom's out there to know how lucky they really are. You get the privelege of staying home with your children every day and never missing a moment or milestone. I already feel guilty enough that I don't get to spend more time with my son, please don't make me feel worse by saying that I don't do everything that every good Mom does.